Kesher Talk

JDate: Ok, getting back to the practical world here, let's talk about the mecca of all single, online Jewish men and women: Jdate. Just a few points to begin the conversation:

1. PROFILE VERBIAGE: I really wish people were more candid, it would make things so much easier. "Hi, I am a self-absorbed moderately intelligent woman whom you will be aimlessly trying to please. My interests include shopping, going to the gym and intimate conversations." Or "If you're looking for a BIG woman to sit on you, contact me!" Another good one, "I am rebounding and looking for a non-complicated, mature, quick affair. Please evaluate your maturity BEFORE applying. Thanks." I am also perplexed by people who designate themselves as easy going and opinionated, quiet and adventursome, flirtatious and shy...how does that work exactly? I mean, what do you have to lose by being brutally honest? The bottom line for most people, is they will look at your picture and go from there anyway. It's a shallow process, so have fun with it and BE HONEST. :)

2. PROFILE PHOTOS: Even if you're married, I encourage you to go out and check out some of the most unflattering photos people choose to be their first impression to the world. I like the ones where they've obviously posted an old picture of themselves with an old boyfriend and cut the guy out. Or ones where they are holding their favorite teddy bear ... awwww. Hilarious. I also like comparing profile body size with the photo -- perhaps "fit and trim" means something different to me :)

3. DECLINE CONTACT -- USE COMMON COURTESY: Finally, a bone to pick... I've had women write to me who for whatever reason I've not been interested in meeting. I take 2 mintues and click, "Decline Contact." They give you an option to "decline contact" and it's just common courtesy for decliners to tell declinees. I do it and I appreciate the candidacy when women do it. But I get the feeling most people are too chicken-s**** to do it. Be an adult and don't just delete the email. My two cents.

Has anyone actually had success using JDATE? What do you think? Inquiring minds want to know.

posted by Jonathan @ 6/05/2002 01:52:13 PM